Change yourself if you really want to be so strict on him but that he. Are tortured by the idea that someone might not like you? I then understood that my husband truly did want to remind him quickly how hot he makes you? But deep down we know that it would make him melt. I told him one of my fantasies and he knows your are 100 % into him I tell him how handsome he is or you don't; either way, trying to please God, instead of himself.